They still might have a certain level of stimulation, but we might not be hunting them down for this, rather just scrolling through and coming across them as we do." "Many of these sexy Instagram accounts are just there in our faces and we are not even aware of their impact. "When you tune into pornography, there is more of a conscious decision to choose material that is sexual and more than likely for fantasy and stimulation," she says. Sexologist and relationship expert Nikki Goldstein, Ph.D., says there’s a close line between the two forums, but that it has more to do with intent than anything else. "She also knows with little doubt that I’m not ever going to be in a position to touch these women anyway, and that if I was, I wouldn’t, because the guilt I’d feel if I ever cheated on her wouldn’t be worth it," he says. He compares checking out models via Instagram to leafing through a Victoria’s Secret catalog or the Sports Illustrated swimsuit issue, except Instagram is easier to access and a more private way to view images (whipping out a swimsuit issue on the subway is much more conspicuous and transparent than gazing at something on your phone). RELATED: Why You Shouldn't Hesitate to Indulge in a Sexual Fantasy-WithoutYour PartnerĪnother friend, Bryan H., says his girlfriend is cool with him "following whoever," because she believes in the whole "You can look but you can’t touch" mode of thinking, and that she trusts him.
"I’m pretty sure a few ex-girlfriends didn’t make the cut, either," he says. RELATED: Is Your Relationship Doomed if Your Sex Drives Aren’t Compatible?Īfter discussing the issue, Sam’s wife made it clear that she didn’t expect him to never look at other women, but that she felt weird about his having so many immediately at his disposal-and he had her go through his profile and take care of the unfollowing. "At first I tried saying that would be fine, that it wouldn’t bother me, but I admitted that wasn’t really how I felt before she decided to try and prove her point," he says. "I know that my wife can look me up on Instagram and within a few minutes know who I’m following, so I keep it pretty low with the models." "I know that my wife can look me up on Instagram and within a few minutes know who I’m following, so I keep it pretty low with the models," says Sam W., 28, who admits that this only occurred to him after his wife confronted him for following a not insignificant amount of models.Īt first, he didn’t get what she was so upset about, but all it took was for her to flip the script and ask him how he’d feel if she was following a bunch of the sexiest dudes in the world and had the capability to check them out at any time-including when they were, for example, lying next to each other in bed. It's probably different, however, when you’re in a relationship when you have a significant other who might get rubbed the wrong way if you’re constantly looking at pictures of other women, especially women who make at least a piece of their living through modeling. I follow models with wild abandon because I’m single, meaning I live in a world where nobody gives a damn about the pictures I look at, when I look at them, or how often I choose to do so. RELATED: More Women Than Ever Are Watching Porn: Let's DiscussĪnd while the number of models I follow is probably above average when compared with other dudes in my age range, I don’t think I skew above by all that much.
It’s gotten to the point where there are more model photos in my feed than couples selfies, food porn, or photos accompanied by a custom wedding hashtag.
I must do it in some sort of fugue state. Until recently, I had no idea I followed so many models, and no recollection of actually hitting the "follow" button.
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